Relationships 101 Episode #1 What Does A Healthy Relationship Look Like?

Relationships 101 Episode #1 What Does A Healthy Relationship Look Like?

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Hi there Sabrina here from mindsetmatch.com
where we work with people who want to get the best out of themselves and their relationships.
So whether you’re in a relationship or single, I’m here today to talk to you about what
a healthy relationship looks like. Type into any image search or stock photo
website “couple” and “relationship” you are likely to be met by hundreds of images
of couples wrapped around each other, looking longingly into each others’ eyes in a close
embrace, in a picturesque setting. It’s very easy to see how these images colour our
perceptions of what love is or what relationships ‘should’ look like. And it’s compounded
by the Insta-filtered and Facebook showreels we all create, as well as our friends and
the people choose to follow. Pictures may paint a thousand words, but can
never capture what really goes into a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship is two
healthy people who are each content and confident within themselves, with separate lives and
identities, coming together to share their lives. They can each identify their emotional
needs and are able to meet these, without relying on their partner to fulfil them. They each have regular time to spend doing
what they enjoy. For example taking some time out, spending time with friends or playing
sports. They spend quality time doing enjoyable or novel things together. But they’re not
attached at the hip and constantly in each others pockets. They are able to grow independently
and learn from one another. People in a healthy relationship respect each
other and they enjoy equal status. There’s not one person that dominates the relationship,
for example in decision making, or expressing opinions. They work as a team and value each
other’s strengths, skills and different perspectives. People in a healthy relationship communicate
really well. They share their thoughts and feelings honestly – no matter how irrational.
They listen really well to each other’s concerns and complaints without judging them
or criticising them or trying to fix them. They take conflict as an opportunity to build
mutual understanding. They don’t shut down or shoot the other person down. They don’t refuse to communicate, they’re not walking on egg-shells, they’re not avoiding having difficult conversations. They certainly don’t leave the other person angry
or in pain. People in a healthy relationship have no problem apologising for mistakes they’ve
made and owning up to the responsibilities they might have neglected. It’s important they share the same vision
and values. Working towards the same thing, with the same ideas of what matters and where
we are going with our lives. So what are your values? What are your partner’s values. If you and your partner don’t know your values, head to our facebook page to find the album
‘My Values’, we’ve made it easy for you and your partner to reflect and pick out your top five. People in a healthy relationship have absolute trust in one another. They don’t withhold things from their partner or get the sense that their partner is hiding
things. No one has to check-up on the other person. They focus more attention on the positives,
often overlooking the negatives. They’re not constantly looking for the problems or take
for granted the good. People in a healthy relationship have realistic expectations of their partner and of love.
Knowing we are all perfectly imperfect and all works in progress. Knowing there’s going to be ups and downs along the way. Knowing that feelings of love wax and wane, depending on
how we treat each other and the daily commitments we make together. People in a healthy relationship
accept their partner as they are and are not looking to change them to fit some kind of
idealistic image. Because you can’t change your partner. So how healthy is your relationship? What
one thing could you do to improve how you function together? Good luck πŸ™‚

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