Key Ways To Improve Your Communication Skills

Key Ways To Improve Your Communication Skills

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Hey guys, my live, I’m curious, communicated.com welcome to the channel
where we’re dedicated to helping you find tips and shortcuts to get to the
next level in your communication skills as quickly and as easily as
possible. Kate, ocular day to day, how to communicate more effectively. Hmm. There’s lots of different situations
where we need to use communication. Um, for example,
there may be where you, you need your at work and you need
to get people to deliver a better, something better than
they were doing before, in which case you need to
learn how to be more effective. Communicator in the workplace could
be, um, in terms of you being a parent. So you’ve got, uh, your children want to
learn something new, something different. There’s going to learn later
that benefit them in life, in which case you want to learn how
to be more effective as a parent. Um, or it could be even in your relationship
with your spouse because your husband or your wife, where you want to communicate with them
to do something differently from the way they’re currently doing it, in which case you need
to be more effective as a
communicator in a relationship. Um, whichever the situation is. Um,
no matter which way around it is, we, we always have a a starting
point and a finish point. And communication is the vehicle that
gets us from where we are now to where we want to go in, in communicating with the person that
relationship and everyone benefits from being a more effective communicator. Today I want to talk about
the frustrations that come
hand in hand with having to communicate with other people.
Um, how the breakdown in communication
can often lead to a breakdown in relationships,
um, which can actually ruin the experience
for both of you when you’re communicating to the person and for them as well. And no one wants to go
through life finished stressed
or feeling like they have to walk on eggshells when they’re
communicating with other people. So today we’re going to talk about
three tips on how to communicate more effectively and specifically how to manage
the frustration that that inevitably comes in communicating with other people.
Before we go any further today, I just want to do a quick shout out for
a book where we take them one of the topics out of the book, um,
and put it in today’s video. So I want to do a shower for, it’s called the seven habits of
highly successful people. Um, it’s world renowned book is very wrong
with research spin around about 30 years now and he’s well worth a read.
If you’ve got the time to invest in it, I’ll drop the link in
the description below. For anyone who’s interested
in reading that book, and it’s called the seven habits
of highly successful people. Uh, we’re gonna take one of those habits. One of those have is absolutely paramount
to your success as a communicator for your longterm successes
to communicate that. And we’re going to discuss
that later in today’s video. Tip Number one is setting
realistic expectations. So whenever you’re communicating with
someone and you want them to move from where they are to where
you want them to go, and there’s always you to be
realistic in your expectations. Although of those people, if you set your expectations too high
that people aren’t going to deliver. Now the way that you
can tell this is if you, if you need to give someone a long set
of instructions or a long list of bullet points to enable them to do that job, the chances are you’re already
planning for them to fail. And the way you can tell is if you’ve
got like 10 or 20 bullet points or top 10 or 20 things that they need to learn
or they need to do differently and then they’re not going to deliver on
what it is that you want them to do. What you need to do is break it down
into points of three or four points at a time, which is much more
manageable for people to learn. Let them learn how to do
those three or four things, become proficient in those
three or four things, and then give them another three or four,
four things to do. Now obviously that does mean that you’re
not going to get that the success that you wanted. You’re not going to get to that end
result straight away because it’s going to take five or six attempts or
three or four points at a time. But it is by far the quickest way to
change people’s behavior and get that success that you want. And it also does it in such a way that
takes away the negative points that come with communication.
So as a good, a good practice there is to make sure
you’ve got realistic expectations of the people. Another point that is related to this as
well is to just watch your judgments of people because this is something that’s
related to realistic expectations. Um, when you judge someone that they have, they’ve been in the job for
a certain amount of time, they should know how to do this because
they are a, whatever their title is, or maybe with their child, you know,
they should know how to do this. They’re six years old.
Um, that judgment actually stops you from
trying to improve them and you get, you get all caught up in the reason that
they’re not doing it is because they are intentionally not doing it well. They’re not trying hard enough when in
fact the real problem is they don’t have the skill to do that job yet.
So what Jeff Hellos judgments, it tends to be things like they
should know how to do this. They’re five years old. They should
know how to do this. Their manager, they should know how to do this, their
teacher, or perhaps it’s time served, they shouldn’t have to do this. And they’d
been with the company for five years. Watch out for those judgements. And if
you catch yourself saying those judgments, just do a little rewind.
Um, and made sure that you’re setting these
three or four points to help that person improve in the skill and you’re going
to get to that success that you want. Tip number two,
self awareness. So self awareness is all about
coming across the way that you, you meant to to come
across or how when you, whatever you say and whatever you do and
comes across the way you intended it to come across to that person.
Now if your, if you find yourself in such a
situation where perhaps you’re, you’re walking away from a conversation
and you feel it when somebody’s like this, then the chances you need to
work on yourself awareness. Now whenever you communicate with people, you want to look for signs that you
demo didn’t come across the way that you intended to come across social and from
somebody who said or something you did and didn’t come across the
way you intended it to, the person didn’t react to the way
that you expected them to react. Then you know you need to
tweak what you’re doing. And change it to become more effective.
By doing that, every time you learn something new, you’re going to make your
communication more effective, which means that people are gonna react
the way you expect them to react and you’re going to get people from where
they are to where you want them to be much , much quicker. You’re also going to avoid
those situations where
the conversation blows up. Uh, everything breaks down,
communication breaks down, relationships break down and
everything just ends up in a big mess, which is obviously going to be
detrimental to your long term success as a communicator. So watch out for that.
Self awareness. Tip number two, self awareness. Big Part
of communication. Okay, tip number three to look at this form, we’re going to go a
little bit more long term. So this is about your long term
success as a communicator to that. To go through this point, we’ve got to go back to what I talked
about at the start about the seven habits of highly successful people.
There was one habit in there. There was absolutely paramount to your
success as a communicate communicator. Longterm. That habit is
called think win, win. And it’s illustrated in the book by the
story of the goose that laid the golden egg. So if the goose is um, fed and loved, it will continue to produce
golden eggs, uh, for each owner. If the goose is fed but not
loved it all stay alive, but it won’t produce the eggs
if it’s loved but not fed. Obviously the goose dies. So how does this translate into
the world of communications? So in communication we’re
looking at fairness and respect. If you don’t treat people fairly, they’re not going to produce the
results that you want them to produce. The golden egg,
if you don’t treat people respect, that relationship’s been a breakdown to
the point that he doesn’t exist anymore or it’s a very negative relationship
and it might as well not exist anymore. Okay? So that’s the 30, but a day. Think when we’re super important to your
long term success and a huge can make a huge difference over a
long span of time on what, how effective you are as a communicator
and what results you can actually produce. Okay. So let’s have a quick
recap on what we’ve discussed today. So first of all, we covered about
setting realistic expectations. That was making sure that people, what you are asking people to achieve
is close to what they’re already doing. If you’re not doing that, the chances
are you are planning for them to fail. Tip number two today was
about self awareness and
making sure you come across in a way that you intend to come across
or what you say and what you do, uh, gets the reaction from people that you
expect and how obviously been bear itself . Awareness helps you avoid
those harmful up situations. A tip number three today was create those
win, think win, win, create those win, win situations. And we talked about fairness and
respect and the importance of those in communication. Now, no matter what,
what’s happening in people’s lives, we all have issues.
We all have our problems, we all have things that frustrate
us. Uh, but when you drill into it, when you think down deep, most of
those issues are people related issues. And in specific,
specifically in the way people behave. Now by learning to manage
your frustrations better
and using the three tips we discussed today is can we ensure that
not only can you get to where you want to go quickly, you can also be a lot more
satisfied in the way that you do it too, and be a lot more
successful than what you do. Hope you’ve enjoyed the video and you
find the points we discussed today useful. If you did enjoy the video, please hit the like button and if you
want to learn more about communication, subscribed to the channel, that’s it
for today. Guys. See in the next video.

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