How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy And Prevent Breakups


I’m Brad Browning, relationship and breakup
coach from Vancouver Canada. Most of my videos are aimed at helping you win back an ex girlfriend
or ex boyfriend… but to be frank, the very most effective way to reverse a breakup is
to avoid it in the first place. So that’s what this video will be all about — I’ll
give you some tips on how to maintain a healthy relationship and avoid breakups. So, let’s go through some of the things
you can do when you’re in a relationship to keep the attraction alive… 1.) Quit being so needy, and keep a lid on
the jealousy. One of the least attractive characteristics
you can portray is insecurity. Jealousy and ‘neediness’ are both extreme examples
of insecurity, so they can cause some real damage to a relationship. Jealousy is a natural feeling that we all
have to endure to a certain degree, but the key is to suppress these feelings of jealousy
unless you have a very, very good reason to feel jealous. Most of the time, you simply
need to trust your partner and have faith that he or she is not being disloyal. ‘Neediness’ is a similar attraction-killing
trait… in fact, it’s so common that I should probably make a video dedicated just
to this topic. For the purposes of this video, though, I’ll just leave it at this: no-one
likes being in a relationship where your partner is constantly seeking validation, so quit
being ‘needy’ or ‘clingy’. 2.) Avoid falling into a boring routine. The first few months of any new relationship
are usually exciting and passionate, but things can often quickly become stale if you and
your partner don’t make an effort to keep things interesting. Avoiding boring routines doesn’t require
anything extreme… you don’t have to go skydiving on Tuesdays and skinny dipping on
Thursdays, for example… you just have to mix it up enough to avoid either one of you
becoming bored. A romantic weekend getaway, for example, is
a great way to break the routine… you could take your partner to a cooking class, try
out the newest restaurant in town, or spontaneously give your partner a small gift. Make an effort
to spice things up in the bedroom, too — your sex life is just as prone to becoming ‘stale’. 3.) Don’t give up on all your social life. Some people have a tendency to quickly lose
contact with friends and colleagues when they jump into a new relationship. If you’re
guilty of this, and you’ve started to grow apart from your friends and social circle
since you entered into your current relationship, then now is the time to reconnect with them. No couple, regardless of how incredibly compatible
and deeply in love they may be, should be spending 100% of their time together. It’s
very important to keep other areas of your life intact, too… a well-balanced social
life can really help keep your relationship healthy and assist in keeping your jealousy
and neediness in check. Generally speaking, your romantic partner
should be one important element of your life, not the only element. 4.) Swallow your pride and accept responsibility. Arguments are normal in romantic relationships,
but you need to learn how to have mature disputes that lead to productive solutions. Yelling
and screaming, hurling insults, trying to get ‘revenge’… these are all things
that can be toxic to a relationship, so both you and your partner need to learn how to
settle arguments in a mature way. Sometimes, you may need to swallow your pride
and apologize to your partner even if you feel like you were ‘right’ and he or she
was ‘wrong’ in a given argument… accept responsibility for fights that get out of
hand, and be willing to step up and be the bigger person if it will help settle the issue
and avoid further conflict. 5.) Remember that mutual attraction is what
holds relationships together. It’s incredibly easy to get wrapped up in
your day-to-day life and forget that attraction is the glue that holds relationships together.
This is something that’s very important to remember, though, because it will help
you identify problems that cause a loss of attraction and stop them before they lead
to more serious issues or a breakup. Your partner fell in love with you for a reason…
he or she found your personality and the traits you possess attractive, so don’t suddenly
introduce new unattractive characteristics that could reverse this attraction. Avoid
being clingy, jealous, insecure, and possessive… these are all major attraction-killers. If your relationship is on the brink of collapse
and you’re worried that a breakup might be on the horizon, I’d be happy to help
you turn things around and make sure that doesn’t happen… you can sign up for my
personal coaching service at I work with my coaching clients on an ongoing
basis, and I’ll help you identify the problems that are plaguing your relationship and offer
a series of solutions to re-build the attraction and develop a healthier, more mature relationship. That’s all for now — please feel free to
leave your feedback in the comments section below, and please take a moment to click the
‘like’ button if you found any of the tips in this video helpful. Thanks for watching!

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