How Not To Be Boring? 5 Tips To Be More Likeable And Interesting In Conversations | Self Improvement

How Not To Be Boring? 5 Tips To Be More Likeable And Interesting In Conversations | Self Improvement

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Hey everybody welcome back to Skillopedia
and you are with me Meera. Guys you know, what’s the biggest problem in the world? Any
guesses? For those who all are thinking, “hate”, “jealousy”, “war”, “unemployment”…
you all are wrong. This biggest problem in the world is a disease we might catch, no…
it’s not HIV it’s not malaria, it’s the disease of “being boring”. Now why do I call it
a disease or an epidemic? Well, because it kills your chances of a good career, getting
a date, kills your personality… If you’re being boring, believe me you will never be
able to get the best in life. So how do we cure ourselves of this epidemic? How do we
get rid ourselves of this disease? Today I have exactly few tips for you that will help
you get rid of it. Now when you get to a party at work or when
you’re on a date, what do you say? Most of us say, “how’s work going?” Or “how’s
everything?” Now these questions are what I call “social scripts”, you’re saying
them because you don’t know what else to say. These questions are so predictable, let me
tell you and the person who answers them, knows this as well. So I really want to challenge
you all, to “engage people in active thinking”. How will you do that? You need to ask questions
that make them give you an answer based on their deep believes or emotions. So on a date
you could say something like so tell me, “are there any particular project at work that
you are deeply passionate about?” or “I love your work is there anything else you
would rather do?” Now these questions are comfortable questions which make a person
talk about his likes, his dislikes, his preferences and the person you are speaking with really
feels that you’re genuinely interested in them and that makes you a lot more interesting.
So boring out, interesting and engaging in. There were many years where I felt like I
never had great connections, you know? Never had close friends or colleagues, never. I
realized that somehow I wasn’t interesting enough. Now when I closely analyzed, why..?
I found that my actions show that I wasn’t showing people that I was interested in them.
Now let me tell you that, people find you interesting, only when you show that you are
interested in them. How do you do that? Pick a close person in your conversation that help
you ask interesting details about them. For example, your friend is a software developer,
you can say, “being a developer must be very challenging, how do you cope up with
such a fast-paced industry?” or someone who’s a freelancer, you can say, “how do
you get inspired to write about things, where do you draw your insights from?” Your questions
are showing that you’re interested in the people you are talking to, your questions
give importance to people and that’s how you become more likeable. Believe me, if you give
importance to people, you become less boring and you end up having a real advantage talking
to people and in your social life. When talking to people, also make sure your phone, that
your phone, you’re not busy with your phone, make sure that you maintain eye contact and
give your 100% attention to them, focus on them. This is almost like a no-brainer, okay? But
having to say that, giving compliments and genuine ones, definitely will make you more
interesting. Interestingly there is at least one good thing you can you know, you can say
to anyone you meet. So why not say it, right? What if that’s the most first good thing that
you’ve ever heard from them in the whole day? Now, wouldn’t you be an interesting person
for them? Think about it. Give compliments, it doesn’t take more than a minute and doesn’t
take any money out of you. It’s easy and makes you a lot less boring around people. Well guys, make sure your body language is
right. Now what does that mean? You could use three simple tips… every time you speak
with someone, lean in their direction, like so, why? Because psychology says that, if
you like someone you are bound to lean closer towards them. So subconsciously, it shows
that you are genuinely interested and that makes you less boring. When someone is talking
to you, make sure you just nod multiple times, to show that you’re engaged in what they’re
saying or what they have to say. People love to be heard and this is a way to ensure that
you make them feel that you’re paying close attention to them. Now this one is optional,
but you can also touch them or Pat them slightly on their arm maybe or on their shoulder to
show affection. Just make sure, you do it once, if you’ve done that once, you’ve established
a good deal of comfort with that person. Not everyone is natural at, you know, cracking
jokes, but if you are one of those people who can make light, of any situation, you
will never be called boring. Now using humor doesn’t mean that you need to crack a full-blown
joke, even if you pass a comment that makes people crack a smile, it’s a good sign. If
you’re talking to your date about living with your parents, instead of saying, ‘I’m currently
living with my parents’, you can say, “well it’s been a while since I have woken up to
my mother yelling at me to make my bed but I love being with my folks”. When you say
that way, chances are that you will make people smile and enjoy being with you, simply by
using humor in the smallest possible way. Hey guys I just want to thank you for watching
this video because I wanted to make sure that there’s anything inside you that is Mr. boring
or Miss boring, I want to make sure that that goes out and interesting comes in to you.
Well guys that’s all for today. I hope you’ve got some good tips, I will see you soon in
another video with another topic, until then this is me Meera saying, ciao.

25 thoughts on “How Not To Be Boring? 5 Tips To Be More Likeable And Interesting In Conversations | Self Improvement”

  1. 👉How to be a SMART MOUTH?
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fXjajm4mXQ

    👉How To React When People Shout At You?

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cR_fjOtNqNo

    👉6 Phrases That May Sound Rude.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uv48jr3V2as

    👉Start A Conversation ANYWHERE, ANYTIME
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPxaUdGxGuQ

  2. Boring people are, most often than not, very superficial and lack depth and self-esteem to present their authentic self to others.

  3. Meera really ur courses are owesome and mind focusing eventually on the content bcs of ur voice that's great.

  4. Now a days people are not Coherent whenever we talk to them.. everybody has some kind of problems but it doesn't mean that one should loose charm in living.. it's an era to enjoy Solitude so as to get out from the club of Herds..

  5. Hey meera… I was looking for these videos as am a boring person.. your video gave me the right info to behave myself to be the best woman.. thank you for your time in making a precious video for us ppl to be awesome in life! 🙏u! 😊

  6. Meera ma'am I really liked this video . Positive complements and body language is very important otherwise everyone doesn't pays attention and focus what other is saying.
    THANK YOU VERY MUCH MA'AM FOR YOUR AMAZING VIDEOS

  7. This will certainly help, thank you Meera, adding one more point, people forget to put a smile on their faces, one should learn art on how to smile in all situations and greet strangers you meet in lift, lobby, gyms and similar places.

  8. Wonderful thought of the day.
    Above all it wonders that you have a great resemblence with the South Indian actress Ms. Gauthami Nair.

  9. I am very shy very stupid type guy i cant speak a single word infront of girls or public i m not good in communication skills i watch al ur videos but still i cant improve myself

  10. This is a good one Meera, I was once told by a colleague and i m still working on this communicative skill and these points that you quoted make sense as well !

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