8 Signs Your Partner Isn’t Your Forever Partner

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Love is beautiful. Having a special bond with another human being
where you can tell each other everything, carry each other through difficult times and
support each other’s growth (and yeah, maybe also kiss sometimes) is one of the few truly
good things on this Earth, right up there with dogs, sunrises and cheese-flavored popcorn. But sometimes, things just don’t work out
that way. Sometimes, the two of you are too different,
or your partner doesn’t respect you, or your relationship starts to feel less like
cheesy popcorn and more like stuck-to-the-bottom-of-the-movie-theater-floor popcorn. But how do you tell the difference between
temporary setbacks and permanent red flags? Well, unfortunately, there’s no magic formula,
no ancient tomb of wisdom that tells you how to determine the exact second you should break
up with someone. There’s no secret answer from the sky or
from the position of the stars above the ecliptic (or maybe there is, and y’all are just holding
out on me). There are a few important signals that your
relationship isn’t as forever-y as you might want it to be. So whether or not you want to believe it,
you may want to look out for some signs that your partner isn’t the person you’re supposed
to be spending the rest of your life with. The truth might hurt, but it’s better to
know now than years down the road, when it might be too late. 1. You have different communication styles: Like
they say, communication is key in every single relationship. Without proper communication, even the best
of relationships can fail miserably. There are all sorts of different communication
styles. Some people prefer to talk all the time, while
others are fine with communicating a few times a day. It’s all about the balance – but sometimes,
certain relationships can’t find that balance. If one of you is quadruple-texting until the
wee hours of the morning and the other likes to live a monastic existence free of earthly
attachments like Facebook, it’s unlikely to work out unless both of you are willing
to make a serious commitment to bridging that divide halfway. Find the balance, people! 2. They’re really down on all their exes: Look,
sometimes people make mistakes, and some of those mistakes are people. But if they describe all of their exes as
“crazy” or “psycho” or “nuts,” then chances are 1) they don’t know how
to deal with conflict without vilifying the other person and 2) someday, you’ll be their
crazy ex too. If you notice that your partner has some kind
of deep-rooted vendetta against all of his or her exes, it may be time to cut loose and
run for the hills. Many exes have animosity towards each other,
but it is a huge red flag if one of them just can’t stop talking about how much they hate
the other – especially if the person doing the bashing is in a new relationship with
someone else. 3. The people you love don’t like them: I mean,
I’m not saying that you gotta let your friends dictate everything about the way you live
your life (“If your friends jumped off a cliff” and all that). But if your friends are all, like, “they’re
literally the worst person we know and we hate them,” then perhaps consider their
perspective on it. Sometimes, you’re the one jumping off the
cliff, and your friends are trying to stop you! Try to take into consideration what your friends
and family are telling you. If you notice a common pattern in what the
people closest to you are saying, it may be time to take a step back and analyze your
relationship from an outside perspective. It’s true when they say that love can be
blind, and often times we don’t realize it until our friends and family tell us. 4. They don’t respect your boundaries: If your
partner does stuff you explicitly asked them not to do, even minor stuff, then they’re
waving more red flags than a Soviet parade. The unfortunate truth is that people who don’t
respect small boundaries probably aren’t going to respect bigger ones, and it’s better
to have that discussion when the boundary violations are “tickling you when you ask
them not to” than when they’re “taking your money and spending it on scratch tickets.” 5. They can’t get excited with you or for you:
A hugely important part of relationships is being there for your partner when things are
going badly. But a less recognized but equally important
part is being there for your partner when things are going well. If your partner dismisses things you’re
excited about or is blase about your accomplishments, it’s going to make you feel crummy about
them in turn! I mean, sure, maybe your partner isn’t totally
going to get why you’re so excited about your epic 48 hour D&D marathon. But in a good relationship, they’ll be happy
for you anyways! Partners should always support each other,
and if your partner can’t support you and be happy for you through some of the achievements
in your life, you should consider it a red flag. 6. You feel like you have to make excuses for
them whenever you’re talking about their behavior: If you feel like you constantly
have to preface your statements about their behavior with “oh, they aren’t really
like that” or “it was just that one time” or “I know they did hurtful things but I’m
sure they didn’t really mean to hurt me!!!”, then you should leave – immediately. If you think your friends would be unhappy
with how your partner is treating you, that’s your subconscious screaming at you that it’s
also unhappy with how he or she is treating you. It might sound cliche, but you should never
settle for less than you deserve. If someone’s behavior is uncalled for, mean,
or just downright wrong, you should never make excuses for them. Cut your losses and leave. 7. You aren’t happy: Listen, I know this one’s
hard, because sometimes relationships go through rough patches, and you aren’t always happy
with them. But if you find yourself continually thinking
“I’d rather be single than date this person,” then you should probably be single rather
than date this person. And if it feels selfish to break up with them
just because you’re not happy, think about it this way: is it kinder to keep them in
a relationship with someone who’s secretly miserable? Your happiness is more important than anything. You may think that you don’t want to make
your partner upset or sad by breaking up with him or her, but at the end of the day, if
you’re not happy, your relationship isn’t happy either. You have to put yourself first when it comes
to your mental wellbeing. 8. You’re Googling, “how to know if my relationship
isn’t going to work out”: Do we really need to elaborate on this point? If you’re Googling anything about how to
save a relationship or what signs to look for when a relationship is failing, here’s
a news flash: your relationship is probably already failing. It’s best to give yourself and your partner
the respect you both deserve and end the relationship. Google doesn’t have to tell you that, you
should know this yourself! We all like to think of our partners as our
“forever” partners, but sometimes it’s just not meant to be. If you notice any of the signs on this video,
it may be time to reevaluate your relationship. Are you really in it for love, or are you
just comfortable with where you are right now? Break ups are some of the worst things we
can go through, but sometimes, it’s better to just break it off before you get too deep
into a relationship. What do you think are some signs that someone’s
partner isn’t their forever partner? Let us know by commenting below!

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